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Wednesday, April 11, 2012

Court: Striking Your Child in Face May Be Abusive Punishment

Judges say parents go too far if the blow leaves a handprint or bruising.

A parent who strikes a child in the face hard enough to leave fingerprints and bruising has used excessive force and can be put on a list of abusive parents, a state appeals court ruled Tuesday. In their 16-page opinion, judges Victor Ashrafi and Douglas Fasciale reviewed two other cases in which a parent who slapped a teenager and another parent who struck her child on the shoulder were found not to have used excessive force. But in this case, the judges held that striking the child in the face, and with enough force to leave a mark the following morning, crossed the line. "Slapping the face of an eight-year-old child with sufficient force to leave a hand imprint and cause bruising goes 'beyond what is proper and reasonable,'" the court …

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Sally McBride

5:15 pm on Monday, April 16, 2012

Seems like this is "joe's" only comment. Patch, can you trace back his ip address and delete his account and all of the other accounts "he" posts from?   more ›

Saturday, March 24, 2012

The Mom Who Knows All Things for Hoboken Kids

Jennifer Powers manages a local website for families and kids called Hulafrog.

Jennifer Powers has her husband and children, and yet she still finds time to run a busy website helping other parents find fun and beneficial things for their kids to do. Powers runs the joint Hoboken and Jersey City edition of a new network of websites called Hulafrog. There are currently six online and plans for more. Each local Hulafrog site provides details on kid friendly events, activities, classes and plus gives parents information on schools, shopping deals and other tips. The concept began in Red Bank in 2011. “It was just some moms who wished they had a resource for things they could do with their kids,” Powers said. “Basically it took off and they got thousands of subscribers.” The site went live in August, 2011.  Powers heard …

Sally Cannon

12:07 pm on Monday, March 26, 2012

Can she tell us why Stevens Institute camps this summer have required a parent or guardian to stay during "instruction/camp" time instead of drop-off?   more ›

Wednesday, September 28, 2011

Mile Square Parenting

If You Want Your Kids to Model, Start Working Out

Kathy Zucker's children have been modeling for the last four years. She has learned to travel light since hefting children and gear is a large part of the modeling mom's job description.

You never know where you are going when you get that 6 p.m. call from the modeling agency. Your child has been requested for a go see, are you available? My kids consistently get called to three locations that are obviously full-time photo studios, complete with catered lunch and Moulton Brown hand cream in the bathroom. The rest? One-time visits to rickety West Village buildings that make me feel like a contender on American Gladiators. Last week, I arrived at a tiny apartment building. According to the posted signs, you had to buzz up to the third floor and then hold your child's hand climbing the narrow, rickety stairs to what I swear was somebody's rundown studio apartment, being used for the day to cast a Procter & Gamble commercial. …

Khoboken

5:23 pm on Thursday, September 29, 2011

KZ Please read these comments and try for a minute to objectively assess your actions and attiudes to your children and motherhood as expressed in your columns. They are truly disturbing. And not evey poster here today is your "stalker".   more ›

Monday, September 26, 2011

Mile Square Parenting

Hoboken Arts & Music Festival: Where Families & Singles Come Together

Kathy Zucker takes her kids to the Arts & Music Festival every spring and fall. They enjoy checking out the artwork, handicrafts and toddler rides.

It's been a packed toddler festival season in Hoboken. Starting with the OLG Funfest in June, Hoboken has a myriad of kid-friendly outdoor activities throughout the summer. The Fun & Fit Day, Movies under the Stars and the Italian Festival are just a few of the ways to while away a warm summer afternoon. The fall Arts & Music Festival marks the end of the true festival season. Sure, we still have the Ragamuffin Day Parade to look forward to, but I can't get a sausage and pepper sandwich there. Instead, I dodge stiltwalkers and battle crowds of teenagers on Washington Street for the endless supply of Tootsie Rolls handed out by local store owners. My husband and I enact a parent tax of Reeses Pieces from our kids' treat bags; they are too …

PAMELA

10:33 am on Monday, September 26, 2011

I too was checking out that cool painted furniture like your daughter is in the photo -- and I'm 40! :>) I wanted the chair she is standing next to in fact!   more ›

Friday, September 9, 2011

Mile Square Parenting

Raising an Urban Family in the Shadow of 9/11

Kathy Zucker and her husband watched the World Trade Center attacks from Manhattan and Brooklyn. They are raising their children in Hoboken because they feel safer here.

On September 11, 2001, my husband and I were a childless married couple living on the twentieth floor of a landmark building in Brooklyn Heights, in the shadow of the Brooklyn Bridge. I got a phone call from my husband moments after the first plane hit the north tower of the World Trade Center, back when everyone thought it was a small commuter plane that had a terrible accident. I was working from home that day, so I turned on the TV in the background. And then the second plane hit the south tower and I knew it had to be a terrorist attack. I rushed across the hall to my neighbor's apartment and watched in terror while the towers burned and then collapsed like the foundations were made of matchsticks. Within an hour, I evacuated to a …

Kathy Zucker

8:11 pm on Saturday, September 10, 2011

On 9/11/01, nothing changed and everything changed for me. Blog post at http://bit.ly/9-11change   more ›

Monday, September 5, 2011

Mile Square Parenting

Preparing a Toddler to Start Preschool

Kathy Zucker's three year old is starting preschool next week. She spent the summer preparing him for the big change from home to school.

Last May, I made a panicky phone call to my son's preschool asking what would happen if he was not potty-trained in September. They told me it was okay to have accidents but that I would have to be honest with them about his training level. I said, "I am. He's not trained at all." Something clicked this summer and in the space of one weekend, my son was potty trained. I wish I could say I had some special trick, but all that happened was I took his diaper off and let him run around naked. He freaked out and clutched himself when he had the urge to go but made it to the potty every time. Having a toddler going commando all summer freaked out many a guest to my house, but hey, it was effective even during the hurricane. We gradually worked …

Kathy Zucker

11:13 pm on Wednesday, September 7, 2011

If you thinking about spacing infant vaccinations, season, type & your setup are big factors. Spacing vaccines is a lot of extra work for both the parents and pediatrician, but it can be done. Blog post @ http://bit.ly/vaccinespace   more ›

Thursday, September 1, 2011

Mile Square Parenting

Back to Preschool Shopping

Kathy Zucker's children are entering preschool and kindergarten this fall. See how she is prepping school supplies for the year to come.

My kids will be starting preschool and kindergarten in Hoboken next week. That means we need school supplies and clothes for the new school year. It's really hard to guess clothing sizes since my daughter grows approximately twice as fast as my son. My daughter is also picky about her clothes, identifying certain wardrobe items as school clothes and refusing to wear them at other times (makes holiday dressup difficult when the cute Peter Pan collared tops are off-limits). I try to stock up on clothing in two sizes; my five year old currently wears a size seven, so I am buying short and long-sleeved tops, skirts, shorts and pants in sizes seven and eight. The warm weather clothes will work for the beginning and end of the school year (size …

Saturday, August 20, 2011

Doing the Pregnancy Math

It's never easy to time having a baby, but Kathy Zucker creates long-term fertility projections alongside her household financial planning.

If you have ever been pregnant, you know how easy it is to get obsessed with numbers. Forty weeks. That number becomes all-encompassing. Starting from the first day of your last menstrual period, you can track exactly when your baby's heart starts to beat. You can also stress about your due date and whether you will wind up with a cesarean section based on an early or late delivery. But for many of us, the pregnancy math starts well before we actually become pregnant. In the same way that I create long-term financial projections for my household, I also maintain fertility projections. I have absolutely no control over when I will conceive. All I can do is look at the odds and guess. Factoring in potential miscarriages, conception time and …

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Bob R

8:57 am on Wednesday, February 29, 2012

Yeah, who does she think she's kidding with all the back-handed bragging and self-promotion? What's so special about you? Do you not know that I'm the Duke of Windsor? That's right. How's that for one-upmanship? Yeah, you've got a huge condo and a lucrative business, but that pales in comparison to bona fide royalty. Did I mention I'm the Duke of Windsor?   more ›

Tuesday, August 16, 2011

Mile Square Parenting

Taking the Kids to the Tropics An Hour From Hoboken

Kathy Zucker discovered that the Jersey Shore has everything from public beaches to full-service luxury hotels equipped with private beaches; all an hour from Hoboken.

Last week, the kids and I strolled on boardwalks in balmy sea air, examined jellyfish stranded by the waves, collected seashells and rocks for collages, and dug endless sandcastles. All under the shade of enormous palm trees. Where were we? Less than an hour from Hoboken at the Jersey Shore. I have lived in the NYC area for my entire life, but I was stunned to discover that the Jersey Shore has everything from public beaches teeming with boardwalk stalls and and crab shacks all the way to a high-end luxury hotel where our every need was taken care of before we even anticipated it. Our week began with a business trip to Ocean Place in Long Branch, NJ. With huge palm trees and valets materializing to unload our car the instant we parked, the…

Journey

4:56 pm on Wednesday, August 17, 2011

I would suggest Brigantine Castle, but that was closed in 1984 and burned down in 1987. Saying that was my favorite beach spot dates me doesn't it?   more ›

Friday, August 5, 2011

Mile Square Parenting

Having a Third Child in Hoboken Means Lots of Self Analysis

Kathy Zucker had to decide whether having a third child would derail her newly revived career. See how she handled her career and fertility both peaking at age 40.

Every day I meet moms in Hoboken who tell me I am some kind of superwoman because I have two toddlers and a entrepreneurial business. I'm not. I'm just a regular Hoboken mom struggling to balance work and family life. Women my age were told that we could have it all. We were taught to study hard and get good educations so we could have careers and then families. Hillary Clinton's generation fought hard so Generation X could have equal opportunities at work. And we can have it all; just not at the same time. Tina Fey recently highlighted the conundrum faced by many American women; that our fertility and career both peak at age 40. In the last two years, I have gotten my life back. My children have become increasingly manageable, and the …

Snip

9:57 am on Friday, September 9, 2011

You're quite fortunate to have the extra help. There are those who don't have any help, nor have ample financial resources (if they have any!), and have to struggle on their own. It sounds like a lot of bragging about your so-called problems. I know someone of average means who lost her husband while she was pregnant with her second child - try walking in her shoes to know what problems really …   more ›

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